So it seems as if we all have a little slowing down to do. However, we cannot slow down time which is the one thing I really wish I could control. This post is a total judgement free only post so if you’re going to tell me it’s bad and blah blah, just get to the end first!
Vey has always been a co room sleeper. We had a bed for her in our room from day one until now at 21 months. Everyone told us we were creating a monster by keeping her in here and it would be horrible once we tried to put her in her crib. Well, they were right but not in the sense they meant.What I would recommend for anyone who is making the transaction is to read a few articles about mattresses online or even sign up for a form and ask questions.
Don’t get me wrong we totally tried to put her in her crib numerous times and it would go okay for a few days and then something would happen like.. the heat stopped working in her room, she got hand foot + mouth, she was sick with back to back double ear infections, etc… things that happen, happened. Everytime something happened we coddled our baby which in my eyes was perfectly fine and then the routine of her sleeping in our room just continued.
Something about seeing how sad my baby was and her little arms reaching out for me calling “mama” it wasn’t even a thought, just grabbed her and in we went.
Well, V is a tall little bug and we knew the time had come for her to hear from the bed we had in our room for her, into her own bed.
It was a piece of cake… after she cried so hard she threw up and we were up washing and cleaning her and the crib… then after that it was a piece of cake. I am going with the fact that she was so exhausted she just gave up. But it worked.
The next day at nap time, the foreign place for her to nap was a cozy bed for her to take one of the longest naps I believe she ever has taken for me. She loves it! Her bed is her spot and she’s happy to be in there.
So people who told us not to do it, we did not create that monster. We created 21 months of a pure bond and for this mommas heart is that much fuller. As for when you said it was going to be horrible, you were right…. for me. I cry and watch her on the monitor at night still and believe it won’t end any time too soon. My baby became a toddler and time went too fast!
The moral of my post which I’ve stated before, parent the way you want to parent & the way you believe is best for your baby.
Until next time!
Good for you!!! Listen to your gut, take advice in stride, and continue to be a courageous parent. Wish I had! 😊
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Thank you so much! It means a lot to get encouragement + support in motherhood.💕
I totally get you!! My first coslept until she was a little over two, and personnally it was time for both of us. I was to sensitive to her everynoises that it’d wake me up, so I was looking forward to having the space and the sleep. She also wanted to go into her newly made bedroom and big girl bed! But now that she is four, I enjoy when she calls at night and get to night cuddle with her a little!! It’s all good, didn’t create a monster either and our bond is real thick and tangled, unbreakable!!! (until teanage age I guess 😉 Do what u know to b true and good and the hell to all the nice thinkers who tell you how to live!!
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This was so great to read. I totally believe in strengthening our bonds with our children however we deem to fit in our lives. I think that it’s wonderful you took the time to share this. Thank you so much!
I co slept with all three, to me it was the most beautiful thing in the world. When I moved out of my parents house I shared my room with Kason and my oldest slept in his room just fine even after co sleeping with him until he 2 almost 3. Now I share a room with Kamilah and I love it. I get to wake up to a beutiful smile every morning. What more can I ask for 😊 some people give out opinions that may not apply to everybodies situation. You keep doing what you’re doing, it’s motherhood we are bound to learn from our experiences
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I couldn’t agree more with how you stated, you woke up to a beautiful smile! That was the best part of everyday for me. I totally miss her in our room but again it was the best bonding experience for us. As a mother we do what we feel is right, it’s just our instinct to protect and coddle our babies I think. Some may see differently and I appreciate everyone’s own way of parenting. I’m glad we have this in common! Enjoy. ❤️
Yes, every way is ok! I’m glad you got your little one into their own bed – my daughter slept with us until she was 3 and transitioned into a pink princess bed just fine!!! Now I have a 9 month old son and we’re slowly trying to transition him into a crib in our room – though I miss him next to me!!!
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It’s so important to do it the way you feel is best for your baby and for yourself too. My doctor could have rambled off a million reasons why I should have moved her and I could have listened to trillions tell me not to co sleep but she’s perfectly fine. Always trust my gut is my motto. Glad you did the same. Love the support! Thanks so much 🙂
It seems to me her bed was her bed. It became comfortable in the security of being close to you and now her room is comfortable because her bed is there. She’s growing – but your bond is too.
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Yes I agree!! 🙂 She has always been a very easy baby and now toddler so we were never really worried about her adapting, more or less I believe I was worried about letting her sleep alone. Mothers always worry, but we do know what’s best! ❤️ thank you for the comment !
Great job momma! We had the same response from family, and we were able to transition her earlier but it was her choice to want her bed. Wouldn’t have changed a thing! And I also stare at the monitor some nights wishing she was in with me snuggling!!!
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It’s always so great to look back and know you made the best choice for you and your family. I’m so happy I’m not the only one who stares. Happy mothering.❤️
I love this post my baby girl is 5 months old and we co sleep. I know it will eventually be a pain to get her to sleep in her own bed. But for now I am cherishing every moment I have with her. Because once she is happy sleeping on her own, I will be the one crying for her touch on my bed.
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Aww she is still tiny! Definitely cherish and do whatever you feel is best. My daughter transitioned absolutely perfectly with no problem. I think it was just a matter of timing. Good luck and enjoy mama!
Thank you I sure will!
I love this post.
Mummies need to remember that the bond you create with your little gift from heaven is INVALUABLE, and all around us are people and websites with terrible advice for making babies independent as soon as is humanly possible which is wrong. There is a , let’s call it an ideology, out there which seeks to weaken the unique bond between mummy and baby and his is done through websites, TV, magazines, advice from so called knowledgeable sources which constantly bombard us with subtle inferences and seeds of ideas that by bonding too much we make them less independent and then less functional members of society. The bond between us and our babies is somethig so strong and almost magical that it is feared among those who do not understand it or who do understand and fear it so much that they want it eliminated. The truth is, the stronger you nurture that bond, be it through cosleeping, breastfeeding if you can, staying home as much as you can, you create tiny little beings, full of love and confidence, gifted with the unconditional support of their mummy (and daddy of course) (which not all of us are lucky enough to have received) ready to take on this unforgiving world, in the secure knowledge that they were and are loved. I acknowledge that every parent has their way of doing things but anyone or any media outlet that tells you that you are loving or bonding or (s)mothering too much , does not have your best interests in mind. Do not let anyone or anything weaken the bond. You are mummy. And if you are loving selflessly, you are loving right.
What you did with your little girl was beautiful and you and she will always have that time and the memory of it will be a warm comforting blanket when the coldness of life sometimes closes in and we need to wrap oursleves in the beauty of our childhood.
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I absolutely loved reading your response. I agree with everything that you said. I never will look back and wish I had done anything differently and will continue on the way I decide to parent with my next! I believe that you are right the love and nurture we instill in our little is a reflection of the people they will become! Thank you so so much for all of this! You are beautiful!
Aww, Thank you too! Your blog is amazing and I am following. You say important things, and I enjoyed commenting and reading your precious words. All the best to you and yours and I look forward to your posts x